“I am new to sex toys and I want to buy a vibrator. How do I go about choosing one that suits me? I presume I can't ‘try it in’!”

No you can’t – unless you agree with the concept of buying a second-hand sex toy!

There are many different types of vibrators and what you choose depends on what you want to do with it. That said, it never fails to amaze me what people actually do with their sex toys…

You don’t need to confine yourself to what most other people do with their vibrators as your playful imagination is the limit!

Lots of women love teasing their clitoris with a vibrator

The sensation of vibration on the clit gets most women to orgasm relatively quickly and easily, compared with the longer and slower process of finger stimulation or a tongue in oral pleasure.

For clitoral play, a smooth vibrator with a tapered end is ideal as it provides focused stimulation over this small, sensitive area. Smooth vibes can be tiny and discreet, like a ‘bullet’ vibe (literally shaped like a bullet) or one resembling a lipstick.

Another fantastic option is a bunny vibe – a small vibrator with a rabbit’s face and two ears to vibrate against the clit.

The movement of the two ears with the vibration provides a very different sensation to a single vibe – which is partly why the dual rabbit vibrator is the world’s best selling vibrator at around 1 million a year! But more about this one later…

The harder the material of the vibrator, the better it transmits the vibration

Gentle vibration is ideal when you first start playing but as you approach orgasm, just like the action gets more frenzied in intercourse, more powerful vibration is essential. Choose a vibe that has a few speeds on offer or a multi-speed dial, so you can control the intensity.

Smooth clitoral vibrators tend to be slim and are not often inserted vaginally as they don’t have the girth necessary to provide good vaginal stimulation. If you want to insert your vibe, there are lots of vibes that resemble a penis and often they are made of a soft material so they are not cold or hard to insert.

The large, penis-shaped versions can be quite intimidating for women, especially for a first timer. Many women prefer the semi-realistic vibes, which may be curved for G-spot stimulation or have a nubbin at the base to also vibrate the clit. 

A great option if you want simultaneous vaginal and clitoral stimulation is a dual vibrator

The rabbit vibrator is probably the best known as the shaft often moves or has beads that swirl around for added stimulation – but it is really the fabulous bunny ears that do the trick! It is important to choose one that has bunny ears angled close to the shaft of the vibe as you want to be sure that it actually makes contact with your clit.

The sensation of both vagina and clitoris being vibrated simultaneously can be overpowering for some people, which is why it is good to choose a vibe with multiple speeds so you can begin with gentle stimulation.

Then there are hands-free vibes shaped like a ‘C’ that you insert to vibrate against your G-spot and clitoris, and some of these are slim enough to allow simultaneous penetrative sex with your partner.

Stimulation by remote control!

Egg vibrators are popular because they can be inserted or used on the clitoris, and are attached by a cord to a multi-speed control box. You also get a remote controlled egg that has a cordless remote – which you can give to your partner if you want to add the erotic element of unpredictability.

Imagine the fun of giving him the remote while you’re shopping or in a restaurant!

Finger vibes are great – you attach one to your finger and simply explore all over your body or your partner’s during lovemaking. This makes it easy to play with your clit during intercourse, or to pop a slim one in his anus and slip it out just before he orgasms – a highly pleasurable sensation for most guys as it heightens his orgasm.

Naturally, don’t use it anally and then on your clit or vagina without cleaning and disinfecting first, otherwise you will get a nasty infection. An easy solution is to pop a condom on the vibe and add some lube. 

This is a quick rundown on the most common types of vibes, but there are loads of other vibes that don’t fit into neat categories. My advice is to buy a good quality vibe and to explore your options, then when you’ve got the hang of it, add a couple more vibes to your toy box and try them in combination on yourself or your partner, or both together.

Make sure you wash your toys well and keep them hygienically clean, using an antibacterial spray after each use.

And store them in conditions that you would want your surgeon to keep their surgical instruments in before operating on you!

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